It's an absolutely beautiful day here in Okanogan, and I’m thinking about positive thoughts. Yes, I'm looking out my office window and thinking to myself about how everyone has a choice.
What choice is that? To think positive thoughts, or to think negative thoughts.
I know sometimes it doesn't feel like a choice. We all have negative thoughts pop into our heads without a belief that we can control them. As you become aware that you may feel you do not have a choice to control them, now is the moment for a new way of thinking to start.
Begin with an idea that we are capable of creating more of what we would love. Do you let yourself stay in the feeling that you do not have control over the choice? Or, do you acknowledge the feeling, consider the assumptions you have of the situation, then gently put the feeling aside and ask yourself, ‘What would I love?’
Lately, I have been working on doing things the second way. So today I want to share with you 3 tips I use daily, to avoid the assumption that I do not have a choice, and instead look at what I would love! You'd be surprised at how much of a difference it really makes just in the possibility of an expanded idea:
1. Positive Tip: Banish fear
Let's look at an example:
What if you have something that's really important to you, and it's just a nail-biter situation? You're just wondering, "Is this going to work out? Is it not going to work out?" If you do this, you’re letting fear take over, and so you’re subconsciously favoring that negative outcome. When we're not careful, we can let fear creep in.
Here's what I do:
My first thought is to acknowledge them, accept them, and accept the fact that I feel concerned right now. This is important because a lot of people get down on themselves for having conflicting thoughts. Does that SOLVE the limiting belief? Of course not! Instead of solving the problem, you go into gathering evidence that it will not work, and it makes everything worse! So instead, I tell myself, "I know at this moment I do not know how to solve this. But, what would happen if everything worked out? How would that feel? Would it feel better to have what I would love?
There's already a cause-and-effect that's happening with just that thought alone. I already set the wheels in motion. And so you can relax, knowing that whatever does happen in the end, you'll know what to do when you get there. It's easy to let go of fearful thoughts when you acknowledge them, and then tell yourself, "OK, I know what I would love and what I want so now all I can do is send out positive energy and see what the universe gets my attention about."
2. Positive Tip: "Stay in the dream"
What I always say is, "Stay in the dream." "Stay in the idea." What exactly does this mean? It means you look for opportunities to take action toward that which you would love and stay focused on it. Let's take another example! I was just talking to a gentleman who was really excited about buying a new car. I asked him, "You seem excited, that's great – but what could you do to create some inspired action to create a source of income, to work towards that goal?" He already had a job, so he shrugged.
For me, this is the exciting part when talking to people about their goals – getting them to accept the idea that the universe already has a way for him to receive the money for what he would love. This man never thought about trying to receive income in another way towards buying the car on a faster timeline.
Most people don't. And, in a sense, that is similar to a negative assumption. "I want to buy a car, and I'm excited about it, but it will take forever or the way I know how money comes it will be hard." Instead of letting this negative assumption consume him on the how you can be in wonder and look for opportunities to see your wish fulfilled in a fun and playful way. You may be surprised at how wonderful the universe provides solutions for you to take action you never considered. "Stay in the dream." "Stay in the idea."
3. Positive Tip: Be kind to yourself
So far, I've been talking about how to get rid of fear and anxiety, clear your mind, and instead focus on dreams, ideas, and goals. But I think the most important part of changing your assumptions (and avoiding the tendency toward negative assumptions) is being kind to yourself. I already went into this a little bit. You have to accept and acknowledge your feelings, and then, you have to think about the possibilities. Which is often that, you tried your best, you put your best energy into the universe, and now you just have to wait for that cause and effect to take its natural course.
But in the meantime, be aware that your assumption of fear and anxiety, and negating your desired assumptions. You must make a decision. So in order to be kind to yourself, I recommend practicing self-care. You've most likely already heard of self-care as a stress management technique – activities such as meditation, going to the gym, or taking a nice hot bath. Self-care is all of these things, and it means something different to every person.
Basically, self-care is:
"An act you do for yourself, for your physical or mental health." A lot of people get confused by this because they don't know whether it means getting enough sleep, which is healthy or eating a couple of extra cookies, which is technically not so healthy. Self-care is both. Self-care is multidimensional. Self-care is whatever you need to do to promote a healthy mind and body, to get rid of fear and anxiety.
Also remember, you DESERVE it! So many people fail to make self-care a priority, and so I want to encourage you to do that today. In fact, I think that will help you change your assumptions, and avoid negative assumptions, just because you're feeling more relaxed and positive overall.
So until next time:
I encourage you to do all 3 of these things. You could also write little positive affirmations to yourself, or you could start thinking about how to build a positive self-image. Have fun, and keep your assumptions in the right place!!
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